Let's be real; planning for a photoshoot can feel like an overwhelming and even daunting task. Maybe you're lying awake at night wondering what to wear. Maybe you're scrolling through Pinterest feeling unsure about how to pose. Or maybe worrying about whether your kids will cooperate long enough to get even one good shot. Perhaps you're concerned about looking tired, bloated, or just not like yourself on camera. Guess what; these worries are completely normal—in fact, they're some of the most common concerns I hear from my clients before every single session.
You may be preparing for a family portrait session to hang above the mantel. Or planning to have some professional headshots taken for your new business. Your senior may be graduating and they want some fire photos to commemorate this milestone, or you're getting ready for an engagement shoot to celebrate your love story. Wherever you find yourself - the stress of wanting everything to be perfect can overshadow the excitement of capturing these important moments. Here's the truth, though: with the right preparation and mindset, you can walk into your photoshoot feeling relaxed, confident, and genuinely excited instead of anxious.
So here's the secret sauce, it isn't about being perfect—it's actually about being prepared. When you know what to expect, when to do what, and how to handle the common challenges that come up, suddenly the whole experience becomes so much more enjoyable. I've created this guide to walk you through everything from the optimal timeline for haircuts and wardrobe planning, to managing photoshoot day jitters, to keeping your little ones happy during the sessions. By the time you finish reading, my hope is that you'll have a clear roadmap that takes the guesswork out of the process, so you can focus on what really matters: being present and enjoying the experience of capturing this moment in your life.
Timeline: When to Do What
2-3 Weeks Before:
- Ladies, I would suggest you schedule any haircuts or color appointments during this time. This gives your hair time to settle and look natural rather than freshly cut.
- If you're considering trying a new skincare product, now is the time—not the week of your shoot. You'll want to know how your skin reacts.
- Confirm your shoot date, time, and location with your photographer.
1 WEEK BEFORE:
- Finalize your outfits and try everything on together. Check for loose buttons, needed alterations, or pieces that need to be steamed.
- If you're planning to get your nails done, schedule it for 1-2 days before the shoot.
- Fellas, I would get your haircut 3-5 days before the shoot.
- Start drinking extra water to help your skin look fresh and glowing.
2-3 days before:
- Avoid trying new foods or overindulging in salty snacks that might cause bloating.
- Get your clothes steamed or ironed and ready to go.
- Prep any props, accessories, or special items you may want to include.
The night before:
- Lay out everything you'll need: outfits for everyone, shoes, accessories, any props.
- Get a good night's sleep—aim for at least 7-8 hours.
- Avoid alcohol and heavy, salty foods that can cause puffiness.
day of:
- Eat a light, healthy breakfast or meal before your shoot.
- Arrive 10-15 minutes early to find parking, settle in, and relax.
- Bring water, snacks (especially for kids), and any touch-up makeup or hair products.
Tidy Up: Look Like the Best Version of Yourself
The goal here is to look like you on your best day, not like someone else entirely.
Hair:
Get your haircut or color done 1-2 weeks in advance. This timing is crucial—fresh cuts can look too crisp, and new color needs time to soften. If you're unsure about changing your look, stick with what you know works for you. The shoot isn't the time to debut dramatic bangs you've never had before. Most times, simpler really is better!
Makeup:
If you typically wear makeup, apply it as you normally would but perhaps slightly more defined, since cameras can wash out subtle features. Focus on evening out your skin tone, defining your eyes and brows, and choosing a lip color that complements your outfit. If you don't usually wear makeup, you don't have to feel the need to start now—just make sure your skin is moisturized and you feel comfortable. Consider a little powder to reduce shine if needed.
Skin Care:
In the week leading up to your shoot, keep your skincare routine consistent. Drink plenty of water, get enough sleep, and avoid trying new products that might cause breakouts or reactions. The night before, use a hydrating mask if that's part of your routine, and make sure to moisturize well.
Grooming Details:
Don't forget the small touches—trim or groom facial hair, clean and trim nails, and remove any unwanted body hair if that's your preference. These details matter in close-up shots.
Posing 101: You Got This
Can I tell you a secret? Almost everyone feels awkward in front of the camera at first. Even models had to learn. The good news? Your photographer is right there to guide you.
Remember:
- Your photographer will give you direction throughout the shoot. You don't need to know all the poses in advance.
- Movement looks better than stillness. Walking, laughing, interacting with your family, or adjusting your hair all create natural, flattering moments.
- Focus on how you feel, not how you think you look. Genuine emotion will always photograph beautifully.
easy tricks that work:
- For standing poses, put your weight on your back foot and angle your body slightly rather than facing straight on.
- Aim to do something with your hands! You could hold a prop, put one hand in a pocket, touch your hair or face gently, or interact with your environment.
- Think of something that makes you genuinely happy right before a photo to get a natural smile.
- Take a deep breath and relax your shoulders before each shot.
For Couples and Families:
Interact with each other. Hold hands, whisper something silly, give real hugs. The photos where you're connecting with each other are always more meaningful than those where you're just standing together looking at the camera. I promise!
Self-Care Tips: Looking Fresh, Not Tired
Like we discussed before, the days leading up to your shoot are just as important as the day itself!
Reduce puffiness and dark circles:
- Sleep on an extra pillow to prevent fluid retention in your face.
- Apply a cool eye mask or chilled cucumber slices in the morning.
- Use an eye cream with caffeine to reduce puffiness.
- Stay hydrated, because dehydration actually makes you look more puffy and tired.
beat the bloat:
- Avoid excess salt, carbonated drinks, and foods that typically make you feel bloated.
- Eat small, frequent meals rather than large ones.
- Skip chewing gum (it can cause you to swallow air).
- Stick to foods you know agree with you.
energy and glow:
- Eat balanced meals with protein to maintain steady energy.
- Take a short walk on the morning of your shoot to get your blood flowing and boost your mood.
- Use a hydrating face mist before makeup application for a natural glow.
Stress Management:
Remember that photos are meant to capture this moment in your life. They do not have to be perfect, they just need to be authentically you. Take deep breaths, play music you love while getting ready, and remind yourself that the goal is to enjoy this experience.
Kids and Family Coordination: Game Plan for Success
Family shoots with children require a little extra strategy, but they can also be the most rewarding!
Timing Is Everything:
Schedule your shoot around your children's natural rhythms. Avoid nap times, meal times, or the late afternoon "witching hour" when kids are typically cranky. Mid-morning after breakfast or early evening often work well.
preparation without pressure:
- Talk to your kids about the photoshoot in advance, but don't build it up too much. Keep it light and fun.
- Let them know what to expect: "We're going to take some pictures at the park. The photographer is really nice, and we'll play some games together."
- Avoid saying things like "You need to behave" or "Don't mess up your clothes," which may create pressure and anxiety.
the outfit strategy:
- Dress kids in comfortable clothes they can move in. Stiff, itchy outfits lead to unhappy kids.
- Bring their outfits with you and dress them right before the shoot, or bring a backup if they're likely to get dirty.
- Have spare clothes on hand for inevitable accidents.
bring reinforcements - pack a bag with:
- Snacks (non-messy options like crackers or fruit pouches)
- Water bottles
- A favorite small toy or comfort item
- Wet wipes and tissues
- A brush or comb for touch-ups
- Bribes (let's be honest—sometimes a promise of ice cream afterward works wonders)
During the Shoot:
- Stay calm and positive. Kids feed off your energy.
- Don't force smiles or poses. The best photos happen when kids are just being themselves.
- Take breaks if needed. A few minutes of play can reset everyone's mood.
- Trust your photographer—we've worked with kids before and know how to capture those beautiful and genuine moments.
- Let go of perfection. The shot where your toddler is mid-laugh with messy hair might be your favorite.
For Multiple Kids:
Consider having another trusted adult there to help wrangle children between shots, especially if you want some couple photos or individual shots.
Don't Forget: It's About the Experience
The most important thing to remember is that a photoshoot should be enjoyable, not stressful. These photos are capturing who you are right now—your family, your personality, this moment in time. A saying I use to affirm my clients is that "You are the star of your story", and I believe it wholeheartedly. The imperfections, the genuine laughter, the candid moments between posed shots; those are often the images you'll treasure most.
Prepare thoughtfully, but then let go and be present. Trust your photographer, trust the process, and most importantly, trust that you're going to look great.
Now take a deep breath, and get ready to create some beautiful memories.